Emily Sirona

Trauma-Informed Break-up Support and Relationship Coaching

Release Anxious Attachment and Meet Partners Who Are Ready to Commit

You know your anxious attachment style backwards and forward.

You’ve read the books, taken the workshops, gone to the retreats.

And still, despite all your self-awareness, you still find yourself attracted to the same unavailable partners, and losing yourself in the same anxious spiral.

You can see exactly what you’re doing.

But it’s like watching a horror movie unfold.

No matter what you try, you can’t stop it.

After this last devastating breakup, you swear you will NEVER AGAIN lose yourself in an unhealthy relationship.

But what can you do to actually change your patterns?

You need consistent support that shifts your patterns at the nervous system level.

We are talking gut-feelings of melted-puddle relaxation, and heart-glowing realizations that you feel like yourself again.

Visceral changes. On repeat. In all of your life circumstances.


When you glow from the inside out, you will never settle for crumbs again, and you will magnetize the partner who celebrates your light.

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You’re in the right place if…

  • You’re aware of your anxious romantic patterns on a cognitive level—maybe you’ve therapized so hard you’re practically a professional—but can’t seem to actually shift your behavior

  • You’ve tried a lot of things—journaling, yoga, meditation, retreats, workshops—and you’re still plagued by the same anxious, overthinking patterns in relationship

  • You keep being attracted to the same kinds emotionally unavailable people

  • You’re so frustrated with dating that you’re about <this> close from giving up, joining a commune, and hoping for a chance coffee shop meet-cute

  • You’re a human! Straight, queer, cis, trans/non-binary, etc. all welcome.

  • You consider yourself a sensitive soul (empathetic, highly sensitive, neurodivergent, gifted, etc.)

  • You’re reeling from a devastating heartbreak, and you know you’ll probably want to get back out there again someday but right now you can barely stomach the thought of moving on from your ex

  • You know you’re a “NEVER AGAIN” to that last relationship pattern that broke you, and you’re ready to do whatever it takes to shift your patterns on an internal level

  • You’re interested in dating, but you’re afraid of attaching too soon, and losing your peace in the process

  • "Emily has the uncanny ability to guide me into and through my most intense of my feelings with grace and ease. If I'm far away from myself, she brings me back into connection. "

    A.D.

  • "Emily helped me devise a dating strategy. Within a week, I was making better connections than I had in months. She helped me to improve all of my relationships"

    J. M.

  • "Working with Emily is as good as it gets. I walked away a more confident man who was unafraid to state what he wanted and then go get it--even demand it."

    J.B.

  • “Emily is an amazing dating coach. She has a kind, empathetic way of listening that immediately makes you feel understood and comfortable. She’s not just smart — she’s insightful, and her guidance feels grounded in real human connection, not just quick tips or clichés."

    T. Q.

  • "The nervous system module was so helpful. I had been stuck in a freeze response in a way that felt unfamiliar. Once I was able to change my state I felt the flee response, and I felt one source of where it was coming from and am about to communicate boundaries."

    D.D.

What it looks like to work with Emily…

The journey varies and is tailored specifically to you. Below lies a general roadmap of the program.

Phase 1: Break-Up to Glow Up

6-months of one-on-one coaching support

Stage 1: GROUND

The first step in healing post-break up is coming out of the downward spiral and finding ground again. It’s about pulling your brain out of overthinking about your ex, and setting you on a path to stability.

  • Month 1 of working together in one-on-one sessions

  • By the end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • I’m no longer spiraling out. Life still feels hard but I’m no longer terrified of losing my job tomorrow.

    • I know how to climb out of an emotional hole when I’m deep in it. Before it felt like everything I tried didn’t work. Now I know how to work it to actually feel better within a couple hours.

    • I’ve stopped texting my ex, and bargaining with God for a second chance

    • I’m at least a 3/10 on the regular

Stage 2: GATHER

You’ve come through the first wave of grief and adjustment to your new reality. It is time to catch your breath and ride your routines into feeling more like a normal human again. 

  • Month 2 of working together in one-on-one sessions

  • At this end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • I feel rested and a little restless. I want to try out that painting class. I want to meet some new people!

    • I get it now. I was bargaining with God to hold onto something that wasn’t good for me. I see the red flags now. I’ve gathered the lessons so I know what not to repeat.

    • Exercise, dishes, sleep, food are functional again. Gremlin mode is over.

    • I’m at least a 5/10 on the regular

Stage 3: GROOVE

For the first time since the break up, a glimmer of hope grows inside you, fueling your motivation to start in earnest on the projects you’ve been wanting to do for a long time–getting back into an exercise routine, joining that pole dancing class, trying to meet new friends or explore new things in your area.

  • Months 3 and 4 of working together in one-on-one sessions

  • At the end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • I finally tried pole dancing (roller skating, ceramics, painting, triathlons, etc. )!

    • My friendships feel nourishing and fun. I’ve got my circle, and they’ve got my back.

    • I’ve got my self-care routines. My friends are commenting on my glow.

    • I’m genuinely glad we broke up. I think I like this little life.

    • I’m at least a 7/10 on the regular

Stage 4: GLOW

The adventuresome, nourishing, joyful life you started to develop in the previous “groove” stage is solidifying. You know that no stress, even dating again, will shake this new version of you. You’re preparing to share this life with someone new.

  • Months 5 and 6 of working together in one-on-one sessions

  • At the end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • The traumatic memories from relationships feel like the distant past, not a fresh horror.

    • I would never give up this life for a sub-par relationship. The bar is high, and I’m feeling patient.

    • I know that, no matter what happens in my romantic life, I’ll be surrounded by love and have a wildly pleasurable life.

    • I love myself, I love my life, and I’m curious to share this with a new partner.

    • I’m often a 10/10 on the regular

Phase 2: From Longing to Loving Partnership

6-months of one-on-one coaching support

Stage 1: SHINE

You’re ready to date again, but it’s still scary. How do you flirt again? Is it worth going on dating apps? Am I going to lose myself once I like someone? 

This phase is about processing the fears around dating, and solving the logistical questions around how to do this dating thing so you feel confident and can have fun!

  • Month 1 of one-on-one coaching support

  • At the end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • I’ve got a clear strategy for how to meet people.

    • I know that even though I’m busy my “rinse and repeat” plan is helping me to patiently stay in the game until I connect with someone special. 

    • I have expertly tailored dating rules that help me attach appropriately, not too quickly.

    • If hiccups of anxious feelings come up, I have a clear menu of strategies for relaxing into my center again. 

    • Dating feels like a fun project now. I’m feeling myself and excited to see what happens.

Stage 2: PLAY

You’ve created your dating plan, and now you work the plan. Play the numbers game, feeling sexy and delightful, until you someone you really click with and want to get to know deeply.

  • Months 2 and 3 of one-on-one coaching support. (*This timing depends on how the universe unfolds.*)

  • At the end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • Damn, dating around is really fun! And, I met someone I’m really excited about!!!

    • I no longer feel like I’m losing myself in obsessive thoughts the moment I like someone.

    • I’m not overthinking their texts or making excuses for behavior I don’t like. I let someone prove to me who they are.

    • When someone says they aren’t ready for a relationship, I take them at their word and politely move on.

    • Emotionally immature people turn me off. I’m no longer interested in someone who needs help to grow into their potential.

    • When I feel disbelief that what I want is possible, I know how to process my fears and energetically align myself with the future I desire.

Stage 3: DISCERN

You’ve met someone you could genuinely see yourself with. Now comes the fun part of getting to know them, and discerning whether you’re a good match while you stay centered in your own awesome life.

PLAY and DISCERN stages sometimes happen concurrently. 

  • Months 4 and 5 of Phase 2 one-on-one coaching. (*This timing depends on how the universe unfolds. In general, this phase needs 2-3 months to set the stage for a healthy relationship.)

  • At the end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • Parentals, I want you to meet my partner!

    • I mastered the urge to dive into a relationship as soon as I met someone. I felt comfortable sitting back, observing who they are, and letting the relationship unfold.

    • I didn’t think about “making this relationship work,” I let it work or not.

    • When something didn’t work, I communicated it. If it didn’t change in a reasonable amount of time, I moved on.

    • If I got sad about a possible connection ending, I knew how to feel better within hours rather than weeks.

Stage 4: CREATE

Congratulations! Now is the time to build your healthiest relationship with your newfound person. 

  • Month 6 of one-on-one coaching. (Here, we set up your routines. Full stability in routines takes about 3-6 months.)

  • At the end of this stage, you will be able to say:

    • This is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. 

    • Our routines make life feel easy.

      • We have a weekly time to clear the air. We have expertly tailored methods for how to talk to each other when we are upset. We feel closer to each other after a disagreement. 

      • Our romance is spontaneous and scheduled. When life gets busy, we still make special time for each other because we plan it and prioritize it.

      • Our intimate life is heated exactly to the temperature we like. We keep it simmering with loving texts, spicy practices, and spontaneous and planned dates. 

      • We have a vision of life together–a shared purpose–that we are working on together every week.

    • We’re still giving it time to evolve, but this is really feeling like “it.”

How To Get Started Today

STEP 1: Complete the 1 minute application

This short survey allows me to get a sense of what you’re looking for so I can be prepared for our call.

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STEP 2: Schedule your 60 minute Complimentary Discovery Call

In this no-pressure zoom meeting or phone call, we discuss what you’re looking for, what I offer, and what the logistics of working together would look like.

The goal of this call is for you to get the clarity on whether you want to work with me, but also to walk away with more understanding of your challenges and possible solutions you might explore.

If you’ve made it to step 3, you’re a “yes” to working together. And we do just that. We set up regularly scheduled sessions to meet your goals as soon as possible.

STEP 3: Start the Work

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You know your anxious attachment tendencies backwards and forwards. 

You even know that “the body keeps the score.”

But despite all the workshops, retreats, exercises, and self-help books, you still find yourself drawn to the same emotionally unavailable types. 

You still feel plagued by those inner voices that 

  • criticize your every move

  • tell you you’re not good enough, 

  • and make you fear rejection to the point where you don’t even really know how to “be yourself,” especially when it comes to dating.

You wonder, what the fk is going on?

Can I actually change this, or do I just need to learn to live with it?

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Wherever you are in your journey,

you don’t have to do it alone.

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Hi! I’m Emily.

I’m a Trauma-informed, Neuro-spicy, Queer-affirming Dating and Relationship Coach with 15+ years of professional experience collecting modern scientific and ancient spiritual tools that harness neurobiology to fundamentally transform the mind, body and spirit. 

My work has taken me deep into the study of the nervous system, learning how to help us heal from the past and finally feel grounded, alive, and like we belong.

I passionately desire to help people create their best life—full of joy, purpose, and loving relationships. This road has taken me deeply into both trauma healing work and relationship coaching. Nervous system regulation is essential to feeling happy, and healthy relationships are a massive piece of how we humans regulate.

I’m a devoted student, obsessively studying the applications of modern science as well as long-standing cultural knowledge. (Check out my extended bio for trainings and modalities.)

I’m a realistic mystic, equal parts silly irreverence and deep presence. A tree-hugger, goofy dancer, and nap-lover.